Master Raul’s Lifestyle Definitions

These are my personal points of view and not to be treated like Gospel

For more explicit definitions:  see Rubel's book: “Master/slave Relations”

 

What is consensual and sane:

Pain without violence

Humiliation without degradation

Bondage without victimization

 

Etiquette:  is a set of rules that dictate how we should interact with others outside of the family circle (Other Leather folk that are not immediate members of a Leather family).

 

Protocols:  is the expected behavior that would be shown in a Dom/sub relationship (internal to the family circle) – say when entertaining other Leather guests while at the Master’s household.

 

Rituals:  are things a submissive does for his Dom on a repetitive nature.  The submissive would do things like making coffee in the morning, fetching Master’s slippers, turning the bed, cleaning, cooking, etc. 

 

Servitude (service):  are the acts of service a submissive provides to a Dom.  (Make coffee, household chores, etc.)

 

Play scene:  is usually a pre-negotiated scene that is BDSM oriented and may ultimately end in sexual activity.

 

Daddy: is a Dom and differs from a Master in that a Daddy is more nurturing and usually has a gentler nature.

 

Dom: is a dominant person who takes the power/takes charge/takes control…in and out of a scene.

 

Top:  is the individual within a BDSM scene who, in essence, is the fucker/giver.

 

Master (Raul's definition): is a Leatherman who has demonstrated capacity in three distinct tenets:

· Mastery of specific Leather skills within a BDSM scene.  (ie: flogging, whipping, caning, breath play, bondage, sensory deprivation, etc.)

· BDSM Life Skills - applies to living the lifestyle as a Master, Daddy, Sir where they have demonstrated the capacity to manage the relationship complexities of having a collared slave, boy, property, etc.

· Community work - refers to the community work the individual provides.  The community work can range from fund raising, mentorship, coaching, class instruction, demonstrations, etc.

 

Owner:  is a Dom who owns property (an individual) outright (no contract needed).  Although slavery is no longer constitutionally valid, there are individuals out there who enjoy handing someone else the keys to their life.

 

versatile:  an individual who can Top/bottom and/or be Dom/submissive.

 

boy:  a submissive who derives fulfillment in serving a Dom. The word 'boy' refers to the male gender whereas ‘boi’ refers to a female submissive.  Being a boy/boi has nothing to do with age!!!!   It is a mindset

 

submissive:  an individual who is voluntarily submitting to a Dom in a, usually, pre-negotiated BDSM scene and/or in servitude.

 

bottom:  an individual within a BDSM scene who, in essence, is the fuckee/receiver.

 

slave:  is a person who has relinquished control/authority over their lives to a Dom. 

Note: A submissive is a volunteer…..A slave is not a volunteer.

 

property:  an individual who relinquishes all rights to an Owner.